Regina Chaylee is a certified vibrational alignment coach who specializes in helping people kick cravings and secret addictions. She is also the founder of The Demystify Addictions Method and author of the book, “Experiment of a Lifetime.”
Regina has walked a taboo path most of her life, having been the scapegoat of family dysfunction and resolving to “go her own way”. On one hand she was influenced toward strong spiritual principles by her mother who was once a nun, and on the other hand was burdened but influenced by her alcoholic, transgender step-father, who was a tortured and abusive soul.
Regina fought to love herself and reclaim her lost childhood. She spent most of her waking hours searching for some deeper meaning to the broken life she saw all around her. Through art and through her surrender to life itself, she found it! It’s no wonder she stumbled across (or rather, attracted-) the most powerful teachers on our planet from the ripe young age of 16. You could say, Regina is “addicted” to growth and development education, but even more than that, she is addicted to freedom. But, as many of us do, she teetered upon the choice to lead a life of enlightenment or one of free abandon, and oftentimes living both extremes, she swung like a pendulum from one polarity to the other.
She first discovered her freedom when she almost died at age 16 and then found herself reborn into a new world of possibilities. She experienced the light and magic of Source Energy and was profoundly moved by the infinite potential she saw for her future. It was the first time she saw herself as a teacher and healer and realized she could make a real difference.
Her next big shift into freedom was found in the nightlife at age 18. As a cocktail waitress she made enough money to fend for herself and run away to anywhere she wanted to go. And while that lifestyle afforded her any growth and development program she desired; it also came with a hefty price tag. Addictions of every manner. That circus of pain and escapism went on for almost two decades.
Later, Regina became absorbed in every kind of 12-step meeting she could find. It was like a new family that could not only handle her honesty, but even applauded her for it. The only problem was that by subscribing to the 12-step method, she wasn’t allowed to believe that she could heal her addictions and enjoy moderation at some point. It was black and white with this crowd.
For a while, she found so much peace accepting abstinence from everything, substances and actions alike, because after all, abstinence was pretty simple. She found joy in the peace that came by realizing she need not ever think about how to wrestle control over herself again, plus she found pleasure in so many other things, that life was just good and easy for a while. But Regina is such a freedom-seeker, especially once fully aligned & empowered, so the concept that she could not choose moderation inside this group consciousness (and still be accepted by them), did not sit well with her. After all, she wholeheartedly believes there is no such thing as “incurable diseases”, so why should addictions be any different? Plus, it was confounding to feel powerless to enjoy certain aspects of life out of fear of loss of control.
What if we humans CAN have it all?
So... she delved once more into the nightlife and found herself quickly out of control again. From the outside it looked like she had it together (with her studies and her accomplishments), but inside she knew she needed help feeling okay and she suffered in silence with that knowledge, still pondering what was possible for herself, and humanity at large.
She eventually found her way to a mostly-balanced-lifestyle, only to find herself engaged to marry an alcoholic smoker. Somehow his addictions eluded her awareness and so she got to confront the understanding that She could even get addicted to another person!
Inside of their little honey-moon nest, she re-ignited addictions compatible with her lover. That was when her body hit its toxic load and she got so sick that she had no choice but to put a stop to her Secret Addictions, including her Secret Addiction to him. It was one of those mortality moments when she heard her Inner Being’s WARNING and really hung out in front of the mirror, talking herself out of her blind spots with no reprieve. It was then that she found the strength to make the deep changes that dealt with self-love. She thought she was in love... but she was actually in limerence, as he was with her. She had to confront the reality that by sharing her future with a person with incompatible values, she wasn’t loving herself at all, and that in fact, it could kill her.
Regina re-defined what love means to her and made dramatic changes that took her life in that abstinent direction for several years, which for her, was the beginning of a proud new era of her life with moderation. For two years she participated with the most extreme elimination diet there is, in order to heal her body. By facing codependency, food, and substance addictions, she faced down many personal demons and found herself clear-minded and empowered enough to face down even more. It was then she decided to take her coaching (side-hustle since 2011) into the world and make her calling into her career. It is, after all, the thing that still brings her the most joy ~ making a difference! She launched her business online (on 4/20/22, haha) and hasn’t looked back, highlighting the necessity for self-love and joy as a means of releasing addictions.
Because of Regina’s incessant thirst for freeing her soul, she came to learn that making a difference with others who feel trapped gives her ultimate joy and is worth everything to her. Plus, because joy is the antidote to addictions, bondage and disease, (hint, hint) it works out perfectly.
Regina love’s riding horses, traveling to exotic places (she’s been to over 10 countries so far), and she's a foodie to the core, always exploring delicacies the world has to offer! She has lived many diverse life experiences from an early age which gives her a unique take on things. Regina has a practiced ability connecting with people of various ages and from all walks of life, which makes her a very effective coach and teacher of enigmatic topics such as addiction, brain science and the Law of Attraction.
Her signature program (The Demystify Addictions Method) is for spiritually-minded people who want to quit their addictions through aligning with self-love and personal happiness. During the program you'll unpack what addiction is, how Law of Attraction works, what your emotions are, how your addiction-brain works and how to get happy in new ways that will leave you so empowered you won't need a fallback or outside sources to calm, soothe or free yourself from suffering. The Demystify Addictions Method is a rigorous, interactive program that takes place online. You'll get personally coached by Regina and become a member of her private Facebook Circle to help integrate the lessons & support you in your transformational journey. Never again wonder why or how you got addicted, or how to fix it. If you haven't gelled with 12 step programs in the past, this may be exactly what you're looking for.
It's wise to schedule a FREE Discovery Call with Regina first to find out if you're well-suited for this program, or for working together in general, should you be interested in private sessions for topics of addiction or any other area of life you want to transform.
Regina Chaylee is a certified vibrational alignment coach who specializes in helping people kick their cravings and secret addictions. She is also the founder of the Demystify Addictions Method and author of the book, “Experiment of a Lifetime.”
Regina has walked a taboo path most her life, having been the scapegoat of family dysfunction and resolving to “go her own way”. On one hand she was influenced toward strong spiritual principles by her mother who was once a nun, and on the other hand was burdened but influenced by her alcoholic, transgender step-father, who was a tortured and abusive soul.
Regina fought to love herself and reclaim her lost childhood. She spent most of her waking hours searching for some deeper meaning to the broken life she saw all around her. Through art and through her surrender to life itself, she found it! It’s no wonder she stumbled across (or rather, attracted-) the most powerful teachers on our planet from the ripe young age of 16. You could say, Regina is “addicted” to growth and development education, but even more than that, she is addicted to freedom. But, as many of us do, she teetered upon the choice to lead a life of enlightenment or one of abandon, and oftentimes living both extremes, she swung like a pendulum from one polarity to the other.
She first discovered her freedom when she almost died at age 16 and then found herself reborn into a new world. She experienced the light of Source Energy and was profoundly moved by the infinite possibilities she saw for her future.
Her next big shift into freedom was found in the nightlife at age 18. As an exotic dancer she made enough money to fend for herself and run away to anywhere she wanted to go. And while that lifestyle afforded her any growth and development education she desired; it also came with a hefty consequence. Addictions of every manner. That circus of pain and escapism went on for almost two decades.
Later, Regina became absorbed in every kind of 12-step meeting she could find. It was like a new family that could not only handle her honesty, but even applauded her for it. The only problem was that by subscribing to the 12-step method, she wasn’t allowed to believe that she could heal her addictions and enjoy moderation at some point. It was black and white and all or nothing with this crowd. For a while, she found so much peace accepting abstinence, because after all, abstinence was pretty simple. She found joy in the peace that came by realizing she need not ever think about how to control herself again, plus she found pleasure in so many other things, that life was just good and easy for a while. But Regina is such a freedom-seeker, especially once fully empowered, so the fact that she could not choose moderation inside this group consciousness and still be accepted by them, did not sit well with her. After all, she wholeheartedly believes there is no such thing as “incurable diseases”, so why should addiction be any different? Plus it was confounding to feel powerless to enjoy certain aspects of life just because they can b e so fun. What if we humans can have it all?
So... she delved once more into the nightlife and found herself quickly out of control again. From the outside it looked like she had it together (with her studies and her accomplishments), but inside she knew she needed “help” feeling okay and she suffered in silence with that knowledge.
She eventually found her way to a mostly-balanced-lifestyle, only to find herself engaged to marry an alcoholic smoker. Somehow his addictions eluded her awareness and so she got to confront the knowledge that She could even get addicted to another person!
Regina folded into herself and re-ignited compatible addictions with her lover, until she got so sick that she had no choice but to put a stop to all her Secret Addictions, including him. It was one of those mortality moments when she heard her Inner Being’s WARNING and really hung out in front of the mirror with no reprieve. It was then that she found the strength to make the deep changes that dealt with self-love. She thought she loved her ex but she had to confront that by sharing her future with this person and his values, she wasn’t loving herself.
Regina made dramatic changes that took her life in that abstinent direction for a good bout of time, which for her, was the beginning of a proud new era of her life with moderation. For two years she participated with the most extreme elimination diet there is, in the name of healing her gut. By facing her codependency, food, and substance addictions, she faced down many demons. She found herself clear-minded and empowered to face down other fears she still held. It was then she decided to take her coaching (side-hustle since 2011) into the world and make her calling into her career. It was, after all, the thing that still brings her the most joy. She launched her business online on 4/20/22 and hasn’t looked back.
Regina love’s riding horses, traveling to exotic places (she’s been to over 9 countries), and she's a foodie to the core, always exploring the delicacies the world has to offer! She has lived many diverse life experiences from an early age which gives her a unique take on things. Regina has a practiced ability connecting with people of various ages and from all walks of life, which makes her a very effective coach and teacher of enigmatic topics such as addiction, brain science and the Law of Attraction.
Her signature program, the Demystify Addictions Method, is for spiritually-minded people who want to quit their addictions through aligning with self-love and personal happiness. During the program you'll unpack what addiction is, how Law of Attraction works, what your emotions are, how your addiction-brain works and how to get happy in new ways that will leave you so empowered you won't need to substitute with outside sources to calm, soothe or free yourself. The Demystify Addictions Method is a rigorous, interactive program that takes place online. You'll get personally coached by Regina and become a member of the private Facebook Circle to help integrate the lessons & support you in your transformational journey. Never again wonder why or how you got addicted, or how to fix it. If you haven't gelled with 12 step programs in the past, this may be exactly what you're looking for.
It's wise to schedule a FREE hour-long Discovery Call with Regina first to find out if you're well-suited for this program, or for working together in general, should you be interested in private sessions. Because of Regina’s incessant thirst for freeing her soul, she came to learn that giving away what she learns and making a difference with others who feel trapped, gives her ultimate joy and is worth everything to her. Plus, joy is the antidote to addictions and bondage, so it works out perfectly.
“IF you are intentional about WHY you are putting in this effort, then the effort becomes another powerful process whereby you realize you CAN CREATE ANYTHING!"
- Regina Chaylee
Why We Use Processes to Help Us Focus
You have a Feel-Good Muscle. Everyone has one, but most of the worlds are out of shape! How strong is your feel-good muscle??
Practicing processes is how you get it strong and the stronger it is, the less you need to sit with processes to hone your focus. You’re just focusing / creating on the fly because you’re already good at telling that Feel-Good Story wherever you go. You’re creating life how you want it as you live it and it feels natural. After all, you are the creator of your own reality, but you may not be creating it on purpose yet…
For me, having a daily practice still serves me, because I’m living life, out there on the court where stuff is happening all the time. Processes keep me tuning myself on purpose instead of just letting my attention wander to the squeaky wheels that are all over squawking! Practicing keeps my Feel-Good Muscle in shape. So, I make the time for it and it’s worth it, and if I miss a day, oh well, guess I was living my life. But I get back to it because I’ve found that life is just better when I keep myself ahead of the problems I can see coming instead of waiting until something has smashed into me to work on my happiness… Why wait until something’s happened that’s made happiness hard? I mean, something always happens, doesn’t it? And while it’s impossible to get ahead of everything, you might be surprised how much you CAN get ahead of and the profound difference it makes in the quality of your life and relationships.
If you were high vibe 80% of the time, you’d be so in tune with your guidance and flowing with the rhythm of life, you wouldn’t need to sit down and practice your focus as much because you’d doing it on your feet.
What do you think your high vibe percentage is right now, or say within the last week? What percentage of your average day are you genuinely feeling happy?
Do you notice any cycles? Fortunately, I have learned a few cycles that help me keep track of things, my body with a 23-day cycle and the moon with a 29-day cycle are the two obvious ones that have helped me perceive predictable changes in and around me.
It’s a game of focus. Focus, plus surrender aka allowing. Your brain is literally a focusing machine, so if you don’t focus it on purpose, watch out. Ever driven several miles with no recollection, or even missed your exit and wondered how that could’ve happened? Your brain is like a car that’s already driving, so if you don’t take the wheel, it’ll take you for a ride!
Your inner guidance, your Inner Being, aka the thinking tissue of your right hemisphere, knows it’s way around all your limiting beliefs. All of that is accounted for when it’s guiding you toward your best path. Check this out - it’s even guiding you toward the contrast that will best serve you in the big picture! Yep, even those skillfully timed bumps on the road can end up leading you to exactly where you wanted to be!
Are you going to create your life experience working for you? If you are, you’re going to need to focus enough to steal the neural glue from those already-in-motion neural networks, otherwise known as bad habits, so your new habits stick.
There’s a saturation point for all processes, which means, they only work when they work. It may have worked every day for months exactly how you wanted it to, but today, is the power of that process still strong? If you look you might find the power of it has faded. So, if you’re not feeling it right now, give yourself the freedom to listen to your gut and see if a different process would be better for you right now. Follow your guidance, hunches, intuition, preferences, and find a process you’re feeling instead. You can always revisit your favorite process again later.
When I’m working with a new client and introducing them to a process, I make a point of drilling down this point: If you INTEND to practice and learn the process I’m teaching you, you can always find a time when it WILL work for you, so work it then. Switch around the processes to figure out which feels best to you and when. The whole point of this process-thing is to stretch yourself to feel good, so… feel good! However you got to that new place on your emotional scale, was arguably a process too.
Listening to music until you feel better can be a process. Dancing can be a process. Well, I consider it a process as long as it achieves these four objectives:
It Causes you to focus - whether that’s thinking or NOT thinking
It Causes you to raise your vibration - meaning it makes you feel better
It’s between you and you - you weren’t relying on or distracted by anyone else
It Causes you to hold your focus for an extended period of time, like 10-20 minutes in a row - enough time for you to create a discernible shift in YOUR MOOD
The added value of the processes I teach is they nip the emotional journey in the bud by creating new conversations or stories, versus creating a more nebulous “alignment” where you give yourself a boost but may find yourself right back where you started as soon as the activity subsides, and therein lies the difference between a process designed to focus your energy and just regularly having some fun. Please do both!
For the ultimate results, you really want to focus on both training your narrative - telling your new story - as well as letting loose and going with the flow of life. I find that processes can add invaluably to our personal understanding of when to “try” and when to let go.
Here’s an example - I love movies! I can get so into another world and leave my world behind. But, when I come back, will I get caught up in my old worries again or will I be a changed person? You might argue it depends on the movie. Perhaps. I definitely aim for movies I think will inspire me because I watch them with an intention to feel better. And yes, I’ve trained myself to do that.
There are times when all I’ll need is to shake it up and “get off it” and as soon as I do, the things that were bothering me fix themselves because my funky mood didn’t catch fire. I just needed a little change in perspective, so I found myself in a higher vibe pretty easily. I just used my Feel-Good muscle and voila! It was not a more significant or painful thought-pattern than that, because it only took 90 seconds for that low vibe feeling to flush right through me and I didn’t continue activating it.
As I’m sure you’ve already discovered, there are times when a simple 90 seconds isn’t going to be enough to break the momentum that’s already underway. That is when a person DOES continue activating the low vibe thought, which in those cases means you can stay mad about the same thing for 10 minutes or 10 years.
My aim in recommending you practice lots of different kinds of processes for different mood-set-points is about getting your hands around how valuable your focus can be, because one day, when you need it, you’ll have played with them enough to know how they work best with your individual personality. So, keep an open mind, okay? Don’t be stingy with your time when it comes to strengthening your Feel-Good muscle. There is nothing more important than that you feel good because the entire Universe is responding to how you feel!
What about this element of time? Why does something that takes longer to accomplish create a deeper focus?
It’s about understanding momentum. It’s why a 15-minute meditation is usually more impactful than a 5-minute meditation. Usually… Of course, how you focus inside your meditation is the biggest factor, but you get it, focusing for 15 minutes vs. 5 minutes produces more movement in your energy pattern because it allows a stronger momentum to get going. Makes sense. The longer you think about something the more strongly you can “activate it”. Or why only two minutes spent complaining is less detrimental to your overall vibes than a few hours of doing so.
There are two factors that play into the speed with which we get our momentum going. There’s the airtime we give it and there’s the emotional intensity we have about it, which means it really matters to us.
If just one complaint occurs, like I’m just telling my friend what’s going on, then no big deal…but if we get into a real heart to heart about it and she asks me all kinds of questions that get me thinking about it at a much deeper level, now I’m a lot more emotionally invested in having her understand the deep inner workings and all the moving parts and so a real momentum has been established... to which Law of Attraction is actively responding.
How is it responding? It’s saying YES to whatever it is. “I don’t have the money.” YES, you don’t have the money. Expect more of not enough money in your life. “He doesn’t treat me right.” YES, he doesn’t treat you right. Expect more of that unfair treatment to come your way.
We go deeply into this and more in my signature program The Demystify Addictions Method, but remember this, the Law of Attraction is not a consciousness, it’s a law of physics. I have come to think of it more like gravity than anything else, and that helps me respect its power and not take for granted the fact that it’s “always on.”
Let’s dig deeper into the element of airtime. When I first heard the 68 second rule from Abraham-Hicks, I was intrigued. They started by saying it only takes 17 seconds before a thought you’re thinking has enough velocity to attract to it, other thoughts like it.
So, to get a sense of how powerful the momentum of your thoughts is, just 17 seconds of pure focus equals 2,000 action hours on YOUR behalf. And if you continue to think the thought for another 17 seconds, there’s a combustion of energy that happens, equivalent to 10x that amount, 20,000 action hours! By the time you’ve reached 4 explosions of energy, which is 68 seconds of undiluted focus, you have reached the equivalent of 2 million action hours! This is 2 million action hours of the Universe moving matter in the outer physical world to match your thoughts. Think about them apples!
I like to think of the movement of energy that ultimately affects and directs our manifestations like the hub of a wagon wheel. Moving the inside hub of the wheel for 68 seconds may seem like only a teeny bit of movement, but on the outside edges of that wheel, it moves quite a lot.
And the best, best, best part is, because this is a Universe that’s based upon well-being, the positive focus that you emanate is supported by the direction of the flow and has way more impact than the negative focus – THANK GOD - since we humans can be very negative! It is estimated that the average person thinks between 35,000-45,000 negative thoughts a day…! Which makes sense if you compare the vibes you see on the news for example, with the reality of your day to day life. The Well-being is outweighing the not-well-being for sure, but it doesn’t sit like that within us and our thinking machines, does it?
If you want to practice this 68 second theory, there’s an app you can get for your phone called the LOA timer which visually and auditorily shows you 17 second intervals that build up to 68 seconds. Try focusing on something purely for 68 seconds! You may discover it can be a little harder than it seems, even though we do it in the wild all the time without even trying. It’s not important you hold doggedly to a single thought, vision, or affirmation for 68 seconds, as much as that you achieve resonance with a frequency which can include many different good emotions woven through it.
The process entitled “The Grid”, by Abraham-Hicks, is a perfect exemplification of what holding this resonance will take. A video of (younger) me teaching it can be found at the end of this article.
So, can you imagine how much difference focusing for 15 or 20 minutes at a time can make!? Especially once you get good at holding the focus!? What we’re shooting for is undiluted focus, which is why we practice. That’s why I recommend the processes you do take you at least 15 minutes, because that’s what is going to accomplish real energy movement in the direction you want to be going. Highly likely you’ll get a few 68 second chunks in there! And if the process doesn’t take you at least 15 minutes, I implore you to time it and continue doing it so that it does!
Look, I need you to understand something important. If you didn’t plan and all you’ve got is 5 minutes, do it, it’s better than nothing! We don’t want to make a process this big effort where we feel put off by it or worse, guilty for “doing it wrong”. That would work counter to releasing resistance and would defeat the happiness purpose entirely!
But you can expect, like the forming of any habit, that it will take real effort for the first 30 days to get truly interested in and invested in feeling good – especially when there’s work like this involved, instead of just popping a pill. Chances are highly likely you’re ready since you’re here reading this, but still, it will likely feel cumbersome to be this diligent.
But IF you are intentional about WHY you’re putting in this effort, then the effort becomes another powerful process whereby you realize you CAN CREATE ANYTHING! So, let’s try to enjoy learning how to enjoy ourselves again, shall we? Remember when enjoyment was completely natural to you and suffering felt off?
Now let’s address the best way to hone your focus! If you WRITE your processes out, it ensures getting new momentum started, since writing forces you to slow down and take longer, which creates impressions into your neural networks and physiology. It helps you learn, and because of this, it actually speeds things up! My favorite part about writing is that if I get interrupted, I just need to reread what I’ve got and I’m right back there again, bam! So, so helpful in these crazy times we live in where there is wayyyy too much stimulation of thought, especially those squeaky wheels!
Have an intention for why you’re doing all this in the first place (Feel-Good Muscle!) and if you miss a process you intended to accomplish, don’t beat yourself up - that’s not what we’re doing here. We’re learning to experience our NATURAL state of well-being, like when we were kids.
Give it 30 days and you’ll see how much easier it gets. It gets easier because momentum takes over. You’ll begin to really crave your alignment time in the same way your body LEARNS to crave exercise once you establish a consistent routine. Your body will begin calling you to release the tension in your tissues but only after your body gets used to feeling the relaxation of those endorphins, whether those endorphins come from moving OR thinking! You can literally FEEL when the energy moves through you with the better-feeling thoughts you focus upon and it’s intoxicating! Your Feel-Good Muscle will get strong and your tolerance for feeling unhappy will decrease. In other words, processes work, if you work them.
If you’re interested in having a conversation with me about what you or your loved ones are dealing with and possible solutions, click here to schedule a complimentary call.
*Remember, every process has a saturation point, so always keep an open mind for new processes to spice things up!
“IF you are intentional about WHY you are putting in this effort, then the effort becomes another powerful process whereby you realize you CAN CREATE ANYTHING!"
- Regina Chaylee
Why We Use Processes to Help Us Focus
You have a Feel-Good Muscle. Everyone has one, but most of the worlds are out of shape! How strong is your feel-good muscle??
Practicing processes is how you get it strong and the stronger it is, the less you need to sit with processes to hone your focus. You’re just focusing / creating on the fly because you’re already good at telling that Feel-Good Story wherever you go. You’re creating life how you want it as you live it and it feels natural. After all, you are the creator of your own reality, but you may not be creating it on purpose yet…
For me, having a daily practice still serves me, because I’m living life, out there on the court where stuff is happening all the time. Processes keep me tuning myself on purpose instead of just letting my attention wander to the squeaky wheels that are all over squawking! Practicing keeps my Feel-Good Muscle in shape. So, I make the time for it and it’s worth it, and if I miss a day, oh well, guess I was living my life. But I get back to it because I’ve found that life is just better when I keep myself ahead of the problems I can see coming instead of waiting until something has smashed into me to work on my happiness… Why wait until something’s happened that’s made happiness hard? I mean, something always happens, doesn’t it? And while it’s impossible to get ahead of everything, you might be surprised how much you CAN get ahead of and the profound difference it makes in the quality of your life and relationships.
If you were high vibe 80% of the time, you’d be so in tune with your guidance and flowing with the rhythm of life, you wouldn’t need to sit down and practice your focus as much because you’d doing it on your feet.
What do you think your high vibe percentage is right now, or say within the last week? What percentage of your average day are you genuinely feeling happy?
Do you notice any cycles? Fortunately, I have learned a few cycles that help me keep track of things, my body with a 23-day cycle and the moon with a 29-day cycle are the two obvious ones that have helped me perceive predictable changes in and around me.
It’s a game of focus. Focus, plus surrender aka allowing. Your brain is literally a focusing machine, so if you don’t focus it on purpose, watch out. Ever driven several miles with no recollection, or even missed your exit and wondered how that could’ve happened? Your brain is like a car that’s already driving, so if you don’t take the wheel, it’ll take you for a ride!
Your inner guidance, your Inner Being, aka the thinking tissue of your right hemisphere, knows it’s way around all your limiting beliefs. All of that is accounted for when it’s guiding you toward your best path. Check this out - it’s even guiding you toward the contrast that will best serve you in the big picture! Yep, even those skillfully timed bumps on the road can end up leading you to exactly where you wanted to be!
Are you going to create your life experience working for you? If you are, you’re going to need to focus enough to steal the neural glue from those already-in-motion neural networks, otherwise known as bad habits, so your new habits stick.
There’s a saturation point for all processes, which means, they only work when they work. It may have worked every day for months exactly how you wanted it to, but today, is the power of that process still strong? If you look you might find the power of it has faded. So, if you’re not feeling it right now, give yourself the freedom to listen to your gut and see if a different process would be better for you right now. Follow your guidance, hunches, intuition, preferences, and find a process you’re feeling instead. You can always revisit your favorite process again later.
When I’m working with a new client and introducing them to a process, I make a point of drilling down this point: If you INTEND to practice and learn the process I’m teaching you, you can always find a time when it WILL work for you, so work it then. Switch around the processes to figure out which feels best to you and when. The whole point of this process-thing is to stretch yourself to feel good, so… feel good! However you got to that new place on your emotional scale, was arguably a process too.
Listening to music until you feel better can be a process. Dancing can be a process. Well, I consider it a process as long as it achieves these four objectives:
It Causes you to focus - whether that’s thinking or NOT thinking
It Causes you to raise your vibration - meaning it makes you feel better
It’s between you and you - you weren’t relying on or distracted by anyone else
It Causes you to hold your focus for an extended period of time, like 10-20 minutes in a row - enough time for you to create a discernible shift in YOUR MOOD
The added value of the processes I teach is they nip the emotional journey in the bud by creating new conversations or stories, versus creating a more nebulous “alignment” where you give yourself a boost but may find yourself right back where you started as soon as the activity subsides, and therein lies the difference between a process designed to focus your energy and just regularly having some fun. Please do both!
For the ultimate results, you really want to focus on both training your narrative - telling your new story - as well as letting loose and going with the flow of life. I find that processes can add invaluably to our personal understanding of when to “try” and when to let go.
Here’s an example - I love movies! I can get so into another world and leave my world behind. But, when I come back, will I get caught up in my old worries again or will I be a changed person? You might argue it depends on the movie. Perhaps. I definitely aim for movies I think will inspire me because I watch them with an intention to feel better. And yes, I’ve trained myself to do that.
There are times when all I’ll need is to shake it up and “get off it” and as soon as I do, the things that were bothering me fix themselves because my funky mood didn’t catch fire. I just needed a little change in perspective, so I found myself in a higher vibe pretty easily. I just used my Feel-Good muscle and voila! It was not a more significant or painful thought-pattern than that, because it only took 90 seconds for that low vibe feeling to flush right through me and I didn’t continue activating it.
As I’m sure you’ve already discovered, there are times when a simple 90 seconds isn’t going to be enough to break the momentum that’s already underway. That is when a person DOES continue activating the low vibe thought, which in those cases means you can stay mad about the same thing for 10 minutes or 10 years.
My aim in recommending you practice lots of different kinds of processes for different mood-set-points is about getting your hands around how valuable your focus can be, because one day, when you need it, you’ll have played with them enough to know how they work best with your individual personality. So, keep an open mind, okay? Don’t be stingy with your time when it comes to strengthening your Feel-Good muscle. There is nothing more important than that you feel good because the entire Universe is responding to how you feel!
What about this element of time? Why does something that takes longer to accomplish create a deeper focus?
It’s about understanding momentum. It’s why a 15-minute meditation is usually more impactful than a 5-minute meditation. Usually… Of course, how you focus inside your meditation is the biggest factor, but you get it, focusing for 15 minutes vs. 5 minutes produces more movement in your energy pattern because it allows a stronger momentum to get going. Makes sense. The longer you think about something the more strongly you can “activate it”. Or why only two minutes spent complaining is less detrimental to your overall vibes than a few hours of doing so.
There are two factors that play into the speed with which we get our momentum going. There’s the airtime we give it and there’s the emotional intensity we have about it, which means it really matters to us.
If just one complaint occurs, like I’m just telling my friend what’s going on, then no big deal…but if we get into a real heart to heart about it and she asks me all kinds of questions that get me thinking about it at a much deeper level, now I’m a lot more emotionally invested in having her understand the deep inner workings and all the moving parts and so a real momentum has been established... to which Law of Attraction is actively responding.
How is it responding? It’s saying YES to whatever it is. “I don’t have the money.” YES, you don’t have the money. Expect more of not enough money in your life. “He doesn’t treat me right.” YES, he doesn’t treat you right. Expect more of that unfair treatment to come your way.
We go deeply into this and more in my signature program The Demystify Addictions Method, but remember this, the Law of Attraction is not a consciousness, it’s a law of physics. I have come to think of it more like gravity than anything else, and that helps me respect its power and not take for granted the fact that it’s “always on.”
Let’s dig deeper into the element of airtime. When I first heard the 68 second rule from Abraham-Hicks, I was intrigued. They started by saying it only takes 17 seconds before a thought you’re thinking has enough velocity to attract to it, other thoughts like it.
So, to get a sense of how powerful the momentum of your thoughts is, just 17 seconds of pure focus equals 2,000 action hours on YOUR behalf. And if you continue to think the thought for another 17 seconds, there’s a combustion of energy that happens, equivalent to 10x that amount, 20,000 action hours! By the time you’ve reached 4 explosions of energy, which is 68 seconds of undiluted focus, you have reached the equivalent of 2 million action hours! This is 2 million action hours of the Universe moving matter in the outer physical world to match your thoughts. Think about them apples!
I like to think of the movement of energy that ultimately affects and directs our manifestations like the hub of a wagon wheel. Moving the inside hub of the wheel for 68 seconds may seem like only a teeny bit of movement, but on the outside edges of that wheel, it moves quite a lot.
And the best, best, best part is, because this is a Universe that’s based upon well-being, the positive focus that you emanate is supported by the direction of the flow and has way more impact than the negative focus – THANK GOD - since we humans can be very negative! It is estimated that the average person thinks between 35,000-45,000 negative thoughts a day…! Which makes sense if you compare the vibes you see on the news for example, with the reality of your day to day life. The Well-being is outweighing the not-well-being for sure, but it doesn’t sit like that within us and our thinking machines, does it?
If you want to practice this 68 second theory, there’s an app you can get for your phone called the LOA timer which visually and auditorily shows you 17 second intervals that build up to 68 seconds. Try focusing on something purely for 68 seconds! You may discover it can be a little harder than it seems, even though we do it in the wild all the time without even trying. It’s not important you hold doggedly to a single thought, vision, or affirmation for 68 seconds, as much as that you achieve resonance with a frequency which can include many different good emotions woven through it.
The process entitled “The Grid”, by Abraham-Hicks, is a perfect exemplification of what holding this resonance will take. A video of (younger) me teaching it can be found at the end of this article.
So, can you imagine how much difference focusing for 15 or 20 minutes at a time can make!? Especially once you get good at holding the focus!? What we’re shooting for is undiluted focus, which is why we practice. That’s why I recommend the processes you do take you at least 15 minutes, because that’s what is going to accomplish real energy movement in the direction you want to be going. Highly likely you’ll get a few 68 second chunks in there! And if the process doesn’t take you at least 15 minutes, I implore you to time it and continue doing it so that it does!
Look, I need you to understand something important. If you didn’t plan and all you’ve got is 5 minutes, do it, it’s better than nothing! We don’t want to make a process this big effort where we feel put off by it or worse, guilty for “doing it wrong”. That would work counter to releasing resistance and would defeat the happiness purpose entirely!
But you can expect, like the forming of any habit, that it will take real effort for the first 30 days to get truly interested in and invested in feeling good – especially when there’s work like this involved, instead of just popping a pill. Chances are highly likely you’re ready since you’re here reading this, but still, it will likely feel cumbersome to be this diligent.
But IF you are intentional about WHY you’re putting in this effort, then the effort becomes another powerful process whereby you realize you CAN CREATE ANYTHING! So, let’s try to enjoy learning how to enjoy ourselves again, shall we? Remember when enjoyment was completely natural to you and suffering felt off?
Now let’s address the best way to hone your focus! If you WRITE your processes out, it ensures getting new momentum started, since writing forces you to slow down and take longer, which creates impressions into your neural networks and physiology. It helps you learn, and because of this, it actually speeds things up! My favorite part about writing is that if I get interrupted, I just need to reread what I’ve got and I’m right back there again, bam! So, so helpful in these crazy times we live in where there is wayyyy too much stimulation of thought, especially those squeaky wheels!
Have an intention for why you’re doing all this in the first place (Feel-Good Muscle!) and if you miss a process you intended to accomplish, don’t beat yourself up - that’s not what we’re doing here. We’re learning to experience our NATURAL state of well-being, like when we were kids.
Give it 30 days and you’ll see how much easier it gets. It gets easier because momentum takes over. You’ll begin to really crave your alignment time in the same way your body LEARNS to crave exercise once you establish a consistent routine. Your body will begin calling you to release the tension in your tissues but only after your body gets used to feeling the relaxation of those endorphins, whether those endorphins come from moving OR thinking! You can literally FEEL when the energy moves through you with the better-feeling thoughts you focus upon and it’s intoxicating! Your Feel-Good Muscle will get strong and your tolerance for feeling unhappy will decrease. In other words, processes work, if you work them.
If you’re interested in having a conversation with me about what you or your loved ones are dealing with and possible solutions, click here to schedule a complimentary call.
*Remember, every process has a saturation point, so always keep an open mind for new processes to spice things up!
“IF you are intentional about WHY you are putting in this effort, then the effort becomes another powerful process whereby you realize you CAN CREATE ANYTHING!"
- Regina Chaylee
Why We Use Processes to Help Us Focus
You have a Feel-Good Muscle. Everyone has one, but most of the worlds are out of shape! How strong is your feel-good muscle??
Practicing processes is how you get it strong and the stronger it is, the less you need to sit with processes to hone your focus. You’re just focusing / creating on the fly because you’re already good at telling that Feel-Good Story wherever you go. You’re creating life how you want it as you live it and it feels natural. After all, you are the creator of your own reality, but you may not be creating it on purpose yet…
For me, having a daily practice still serves me, because I’m living life, out there on the court where stuff is happening all the time. Processes keep me tuning myself on purpose instead of just letting my attention wander to the squeaky wheels that are all over squawking! Practicing keeps my Feel-Good Muscle in shape. So, I make the time for it and it’s worth it, and if I miss a day, oh well, guess I was living my life. But I get back to it because I’ve found that life is just better when I keep myself ahead of the problems I can see coming instead of waiting until something has smashed into me to work on my happiness… Why wait until something’s happened that’s made happiness hard? I mean, something always happens, doesn’t it? And while it’s impossible to get ahead of everything, you might be surprised how much you CAN get ahead of and the profound difference it makes in the quality of your life and relationships.
If you were high vibe 80% of the time, you’d be so in tune with your guidance and flowing with the rhythm of life, you wouldn’t need to sit down and practice your focus as much because you’d doing it on your feet.
What do you think your high vibe percentage is right now, or say within the last week? What percentage of your average day are you genuinely feeling happy?
Do you notice any cycles? Fortunately, I have learned a few cycles that help me keep track of things, my body with a 23-day cycle and the moon with a 29-day cycle are the two obvious ones that have helped me perceive predictable changes in and around me.
It’s a game of focus. Focus, plus surrender aka allowing. Your brain is literally a focusing machine, so if you don’t focus it on purpose, watch out. Ever driven several miles with no recollection, or even missed your exit and wondered how that could’ve happened? Your brain is like a car that’s already driving, so if you don’t take the wheel, it’ll take you for a ride!
Your inner guidance, your Inner Being, aka the thinking tissue of your right hemisphere, knows it’s way around all your limiting beliefs. All of that is accounted for when it’s guiding you toward your best path. Check this out - it’s even guiding you toward the contrast that will best serve you in the big picture! Yep, even those skillfully timed bumps on the road can end up leading you to exactly where you wanted to be!
Are you going to create your life experience working for you? If you are, you’re going to need to focus enough to steal the neural glue from those already-in-motion neural networks, otherwise known as bad habits, so your new habits stick.
There’s a saturation point for all processes, which means, they only work when they work. It may have worked every day for months exactly how you wanted it to, but today, is the power of that process still strong? If you look you might find the power of it has faded. So, if you’re not feeling it right now, give yourself the freedom to listen to your gut and see if a different process would be better for you right now. Follow your guidance, hunches, intuition, preferences, and find a process you’re feeling instead. You can always revisit your favorite process again later.
When I’m working with a new client and introducing them to a process, I make a point of drilling down this point: If you INTEND to practice and learn the process I’m teaching you, you can always find a time when it WILL work for you, so work it then. Switch around the processes to figure out which feels best to you and when. The whole point of this process-thing is to stretch yourself to feel good, so… feel good! However you got to that new place on your emotional scale, was arguably a process too.
Listening to music until you feel better can be a process. Dancing can be a process. Well, I consider it a process as long as it achieves these four objectives:
It Causes you to focus - whether that’s thinking or NOT thinking
It Causes you to raise your vibration - meaning it makes you feel better
It’s between you and you - you weren’t relying on or distracted by anyone else
It Causes you to hold your focus for an extended period of time, like 10-20 minutes in a row - enough time for you to create a discernible shift in YOUR MOOD
The added value of the processes I teach is they nip the emotional journey in the bud by creating new conversations or stories, versus creating a more nebulous “alignment” where you give yourself a boost but may find yourself right back where you started as soon as the activity subsides, and therein lies the difference between a process designed to focus your energy and just regularly having some fun. Please do both!
For the ultimate results, you really want to focus on both training your narrative - telling your new story - as well as letting loose and going with the flow of life. I find that processes can add invaluably to our personal understanding of when to “try” and when to let go.
Here’s an example - I love movies! I can get so into another world and leave my world behind. But, when I come back, will I get caught up in my old worries again or will I be a changed person? You might argue it depends on the movie. Perhaps. I definitely aim for movies I think will inspire me because I watch them with an intention to feel better. And yes, I’ve trained myself to do that.
There are times when all I’ll need is to shake it up and “get off it” and as soon as I do, the things that were bothering me fix themselves because my funky mood didn’t catch fire. I just needed a little change in perspective, so I found myself in a higher vibe pretty easily. I just used my Feel-Good muscle and voila! It was not a more significant or painful thought-pattern than that, because it only took 90 seconds for that low vibe feeling to flush right through me and I didn’t continue activating it.
As I’m sure you’ve already discovered, there are times when a simple 90 seconds isn’t going to be enough to break the momentum that’s already underway. That is when a person DOES continue activating the low vibe thought, which in those cases means you can stay mad about the same thing for 10 minutes or 10 years.
My aim in recommending you practice lots of different kinds of processes for different mood-set-points is about getting your hands around how valuable your focus can be, because one day, when you need it, you’ll have played with them enough to know how they work best with your individual personality. So, keep an open mind, okay? Don’t be stingy with your time when it comes to strengthening your Feel-Good muscle. There is nothing more important than that you feel good because the entire Universe is responding to how you feel!
What about this element of time? Why does something that takes longer to accomplish create a deeper focus?
It’s about understanding momentum. It’s why a 15-minute meditation is usually more impactful than a 5-minute meditation. Usually… Of course, how you focus inside your meditation is the biggest factor, but you get it, focusing for 15 minutes vs. 5 minutes produces more movement in your energy pattern because it allows a stronger momentum to get going. Makes sense. The longer you think about something the more strongly you can “activate it”. Or why only two minutes spent complaining is less detrimental to your overall vibes than a few hours of doing so.
There are two factors that play into the speed with which we get our momentum going. There’s the airtime we give it and there’s the emotional intensity we have about it, which means it really matters to us.
If just one complaint occurs, like I’m just telling my friend what’s going on, then no big deal…but if we get into a real heart to heart about it and she asks me all kinds of questions that get me thinking about it at a much deeper level, now I’m a lot more emotionally invested in having her understand the deep inner workings and all the moving parts and so a real momentum has been established... to which Law of Attraction is actively responding.
How is it responding? It’s saying YES to whatever it is. “I don’t have the money.” YES, you don’t have the money. Expect more of not enough money in your life. “He doesn’t treat me right.” YES, he doesn’t treat you right. Expect more of that unfair treatment to come your way.
We go deeply into this and more in my signature program The Demystify Addictions Method, but remember this, the Law of Attraction is not a consciousness, it’s a law of physics. I have come to think of it more like gravity than anything else, and that helps me respect its power and not take for granted the fact that it’s “always on.”
Let’s dig deeper into the element of airtime. When I first heard the 68 second rule from Abraham-Hicks, I was intrigued. They started by saying it only takes 17 seconds before a thought you’re thinking has enough velocity to attract to it, other thoughts like it.
So, to get a sense of how powerful the momentum of your thoughts is, just 17 seconds of pure focus equals 2,000 action hours on YOUR behalf. And if you continue to think the thought for another 17 seconds, there’s a combustion of energy that happens, equivalent to 10x that amount, 20,000 action hours! By the time you’ve reached 4 explosions of energy, which is 68 seconds of undiluted focus, you have reached the equivalent of 2 million action hours! This is 2 million action hours of the Universe moving matter in the outer physical world to match your thoughts. Think about them apples!
I like to think of the movement of energy that ultimately affects and directs our manifestations like the hub of a wagon wheel. Moving the inside hub of the wheel for 68 seconds may seem like only a teeny bit of movement, but on the outside edges of that wheel, it moves quite a lot.
And the best, best, best part is, because this is a Universe that’s based upon well-being, the positive focus that you emanate is supported by the direction of the flow and has way more impact than the negative focus – THANK GOD - since we humans can be very negative! It is estimated that the average person thinks between 35,000-45,000 negative thoughts a day…! Which makes sense if you compare the vibes you see on the news for example, with the reality of your day to day life. The Well-being is outweighing the not-well-being for sure, but it doesn’t sit like that within us and our thinking machines, does it?
If you want to practice this 68 second theory, there’s an app you can get for your phone called the LOA timer which visually and auditorily shows you 17 second intervals that build up to 68 seconds. Try focusing on something purely for 68 seconds! You may discover it can be a little harder than it seems, even though we do it in the wild all the time without even trying. It’s not important you hold doggedly to a single thought, vision, or affirmation for 68 seconds, as much as that you achieve resonance with a frequency which can include many different good emotions woven through it.
The process entitled “The Grid”, by Abraham-Hicks, is a perfect exemplification of what holding this resonance will take. A video of (younger) me teaching it can be found at the end of this article.
So, can you imagine how much difference focusing for 15 or 20 minutes at a time can make!? Especially once you get good at holding the focus!? What we’re shooting for is undiluted focus, which is why we practice. That’s why I recommend the processes you do take you at least 15 minutes, because that’s what is going to accomplish real energy movement in the direction you want to be going. Highly likely you’ll get a few 68 second chunks in there! And if the process doesn’t take you at least 15 minutes, I implore you to time it and continue doing it so that it does!
Look, I need you to understand something important. If you didn’t plan and all you’ve got is 5 minutes, do it, it’s better than nothing! We don’t want to make a process this big effort where we feel put off by it or worse, guilty for “doing it wrong”. That would work counter to releasing resistance and would defeat the happiness purpose entirely!
But you can expect, like the forming of any habit, that it will take real effort for the first 30 days to get truly interested in and invested in feeling good – especially when there’s work like this involved, instead of just popping a pill. Chances are highly likely you’re ready since you’re here reading this, but still, it will likely feel cumbersome to be this diligent.
But IF you are intentional about WHY you’re putting in this effort, then the effort becomes another powerful process whereby you realize you CAN CREATE ANYTHING! So, let’s try to enjoy learning how to enjoy ourselves again, shall we? Remember when enjoyment was completely natural to you and suffering felt off?
Now let’s address the best way to hone your focus! If you WRITE your processes out, it ensures getting new momentum started, since writing forces you to slow down and take longer, which creates impressions into your neural networks and physiology. It helps you learn, and because of this, it actually speeds things up! My favorite part about writing is that if I get interrupted, I just need to reread what I’ve got and I’m right back there again, bam! So, so helpful in these crazy times we live in where there is wayyyy too much stimulation of thought, especially those squeaky wheels!
Have an intention for why you’re doing all this in the first place (Feel-Good Muscle!) and if you miss a process you intended to accomplish, don’t beat yourself up - that’s not what we’re doing here. We’re learning to experience our NATURAL state of well-being, like when we were kids.
Give it 30 days and you’ll see how much easier it gets. It gets easier because momentum takes over. You’ll begin to really crave your alignment time in the same way your body LEARNS to crave exercise once you establish a consistent routine. Your body will begin calling you to release the tension in your tissues but only after your body gets used to feeling the relaxation of those endorphins, whether those endorphins come from moving OR thinking! You can literally FEEL when the energy moves through you with the better-feeling thoughts you focus upon and it’s intoxicating! Your Feel-Good Muscle will get strong and your tolerance for feeling unhappy will decrease. In other words, processes work, if you work them.
If you’re interested in having a conversation with me about what you or your loved ones are dealing with and possible solutions, click here to schedule a complimentary call.
*Remember, every process has a saturation point, so always keep an open mind for new processes to spice things up!
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"Regina is a beautiful and wonderful spirit. She’s constantly growing and developing herself and allows the space to support others to do the same. She’s an amazing manifester and a wonderful guide for manifestation. If you’re looking to expand yourself, to develop yourself in the practices of the law of attraction, You want support in doing so Regina who is masterful at bringing community together, and sourcing others to developing themselves to reach their next highest potential. Her programs have helped me create lots of love and I'm so grateful that I have you in my life. Some of it had to do with letting go of that which was no longer serving me. Some of it had to do with being the space to attracting that which I want. It has helped me financially, it has helped me in areas of friendship, and it has helped me dealing with grief and loss. I am very grateful for her support and program."
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"I highly recommend Regina Chaylee. it made a difference in speaking with her when it came to the subject of addiction. from our first call, I felt ease and freedom around alcohol and cigarettes. it might of been a month since our call. I think I had 3 beers on separate occasions.I smoked about 4 cigarettes in one day. and I havent picked one up since then. I'm not a daily drink or smoker."
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"I have known Regina since 2012. I went to her Law of Attraction meetup at her home and ended up becoming her roommate for a couple of months after that. She is a wonderful Law of Attraction Coach. I already knew about it, but she taught me many New things. She's taught me many different ways to manifest along with exercises when I'm feeling resistant. Ive become a strong manifester since I've met her. I made a list of qualities I wanted to find in my future husband sitting at her dining room table. I manifested him 4 years later when I actually tried to manifest a husband! Took me 3 weeks! I owe all that to Regina! If you want to learn about the Law of Attraction or strengthen your manifesting abilities, Regina is your girl!"
Michelle Richey
"Regina, you are the best. Thank you for calling so quickly and tuning into me. I'm glad that you are there to see the major stepping stones along my journey. You were the person placed in my path to act like a catalyst leading to our home becoming a reality. I knew all the info but just needed that one last push towards my reality. You're a good reference for me. Sometimes you just need an encouraging word and guidance to find the courage to confront changing your vibration. Someone to remind you that you're on the right track and have the skills, just need to refocus. Watching our home being framed downstairs has been really exciting. Thank you, thank you, thank you. I would really like to give you a big hug."
Lara Malinn Kenoyer
"Regina, you are just amazing. Period. I felt so depressed, sad, etc. when I called you. I felt like nobody understood how it felt to want something but feel so frustrated because it felt so out of reach. I keep reminding myself what you said - I have been launching desires all of this time and now it's time to align myself to what I have already created. I feel my vibration raising authentically and not it that sugar-coated, fake 'positive thinking' kind of way. Thank you for this and thank you for EVERYTHING! You are surely worth your salt and deserve exactly what you desire in payment. Really and truly."
Malena Crawford
"At one point I couldn't even look at things in stores because I knew I didn't have money, and I got upset every time I looked at things and thought I can't buy that. Regina, meeting you has allowed me to notice what I am talking about, and attracting in my life. Your coaching has inspired me and shifted the way I think and act towards money - it changed my life. I now love looking, and shopping for things. I really appreciate paying for things and wanting things. I created attracting over $1150 of unexpected money while you were coaching me. Thank you. I am forever grateful for meeting you, and learning about the Law of Attraction. Love, Amy."
Amy Flynn
"I consulted Regina when I was in an uncomfortable situation. My new girlfriend and I were getting serious but she was going through a divorce and still dealing with her ex all the time. Although he had been removed from her house months earlier, all kinds of his personal belongings were still there. It really bugged me because I couldn't be anywhere in the house without being reminded of the guy. Not to mention my girlfriend's kids were still getting used to me being in her life. I felt dis-empowered, resigned, frustrated and just stuck with the situation. It seemed like nothing would turn it around fast enough. Regina walked me through a process where I remembered another time when I endured some excruciating pain (a 60-mile hike in the Wyoming wilderness). It could have been a life threatening situation, and all I could do to make it out alive was put one foot in front of the other. It was painful and I remembered finding a power within me that for some reason I had forgotten. Anyway, I started to realize I could see the future, and the future I wanted was happening. Everything was going to be amazing. This was just one of those things where I had to take one step after another. After that, his stuff in the house didn't bug me. Now it's my clothes in her closet and my stuff in her drawers. And even though her kids are still going through their processes to accept me, I don't mind that either. My girlfriend and I are moving in together and everything's going forward just like I saw it would. Thanks, Regina."
Brad "Gus" Gustafson
"I used to be a companion for a dear, elderly woman named Jeri. She and I bonded. When she died, I knew I'd never find a relationship or job like it again. I've always loved elderly people and volunteer for Meals on Wheels - and I just adore it! But it wasn't paying the bills and my husband was very stressed out about money, which in turn was stressing me out. Being a mother of 3, one with autism, I already had my hands full. My intention was to find a part time job to help out, but I was always dragging myself through the process. I study Law of Attraction so I knew I was pushing against the flow but felt powerless to stop every time I'd look at the job market and what was available. Regina really encouraged me. She helped me see that I was the one who attracted my fabulous job from the past along with every other fantastic thing in my life and that not only could I do it again, but that it would be different and better, tailored to who I am now. If I had been listening to someone else saying what I was saying, I probably would've seen it, but because it was myself, I couldn't. Regina took me through 6 or 7 processes and it felt amazing each time, re-discovering my power and inner peace. It turned out to be easier than I thought! I manifested 2 jobs! The 2nd one in 35 days. Not any old job either. They paid $100 tonight as a retainer and $100 a week thereafter as a weekly retainer, and $20 an hour! Now, I know Jeri paid me well after I had been with her so long, but this is like that never missed a beat! The agencies I applied for only paid $10 or 10.50 an hour. And I really enjoy this little lady! She is adorable! So sweet! We went to Target today and she bought a rose bush. As we walked out of the grocery store she said, "It has been so nice to have you to help me!" I planted the rose bush for her. It was so wonderful. She sat while I planted it, we enjoyed conversation, the warm sun, the cool ocean breeze. Thank you Regina. I think you are so wonderful and a fantastic coach! I so appreciate your thoughtful guidance and patience! I can't tell you how at peace I am!"
Tracy Carlos
"One thing Regina has impressed upon me is You are in full control of your destiny, basically. I don't completely agree with this concept (although I think the implementation of this in the real world is not only interesting but may be very effective for increasing overall happiness and well-being), but I really respect the way she follows through with it. She is one of the few girls I know that take real responsibility for her actions, not only the overt ones but even to the extent of the way she thinks. She's embraced the Law of Attraction entirely, the emotional scale thing, the videos and most importantly the way of thinking. If she has a "lacking abundance thought" or is in a bad mood, she is aware of it and works to correct it. She is a beacon of meaning of the Law of Attraction and it works for her. In fact, this only the beginning of what makes her interesting. She has quite a lot of integrity on the whole and is one of the few people who I am very certain rarely, if ever, lies to me. As for the difference Regina has made in my life? Her example made get hard core with my own initiative and integrity and have since made a bunch of changes, for example, dieting, working out, and bringing my career to a whole new level. I also realized there are girls out there that I can connect with in ways that I didn't think I could, so thanks Regina."
Daniel Cates
Jungle Man 12
"Being a single mom, I wanted to believe in the best, but for him to be in love with me, and my kid, and still want more kids? I was always concerned I didn't deserve it. I was very skeptical and so scared, like I didn't trust him. I didn't think it was possible. I remember when he finally broke it off, proving all my worries to be true. But you wouldn't let me forget how in love with me he was and how I was just manifesting my fears because I was more focused on them than I was focused on what I really wanted. I realized I still had the power to do what I wanted instead of being a victim. It took all the courage I had to ask him to please not give up. I asked him to go out with me and he did. We clicked all over again and had the most meaningful time that day - which turned out to be the day Noah was conceived. Noah Lee McKnight. It still baffles me. That turn around was intense. One year and nine months later and we're still reeling. It was a quantum leap and it happened in one day. This giant wall that divided my life. You said, "Don't fall for that! Break down the wall." It seemed so sturdy but you helped me see it was just a veil, like smoke, wave your hand it'll disappear. Thank you so much!"
Jacqueline Coggins
"Regina is a high energy, intelligent, clear visioned, vibrationally aligned, heart-centered and intuitive coach. She is highly skilled at discerning, and helping clients discern the energy blocks that keep them stuck in low vibrational holding patterns and reconnect to their Inner Being in practical, simple yet incredibly powerful ways to allow transformational shifts. I wholeheartedly recommend her!"
Johanne Ascoli
"Before I talked to Regina I was having no luck getting any job at all, let alone a job I wanted. I'd sometimes get okay offers but they would always fall through. I went through this for 18 months and my unemployment had run out 3 months before our coaching call, so I was really on the edge, looking at having to move in with my mom... I didn't have a lot of faith in the law of attraction but I figured any advice could only help. I had another interview lined up but I wasn't feeling so great about it so I got on the line with Regina and decided to give it my all. We did a process that helped me shift my emotions from feeling despair to feeling hopeful about abundance. Not only did I get the position as a threat awareness analyst, but I love it! I started at $40k which allowed me to get my new car.
(***update*** I also got a promotion 6 months later with a raise of $11k so I got an apartment of my own ~ and later a 4k sq ft house and next dream car! ~ based on the same principles I learned in just that one call).
I'm so glad we did that coaching session Regina - just one call - because my head was in the wrong place and talking to you put me in the zone. Thanks!!!"
James Ebbitt
"The thing I love about talking to you is that you are REAL. Talking to you and getting coaching from you is like talking to a friend you've known your whole life - with just some added bonus'.... One bonus being that you take a stand in your listening of me. We 'humans' are masters at 'gathering evidence'. When you are having a low moment it is tempting to call a friend who will validate your feelings. You validate my feelings, sometimes, even by saying you've just experienced the same thing! The difference is that you help me push me to see how I caused my own outcome. Every time I get off the phone with you I feel really good and really calm. Sometimes I crave talking to you the way my achy body craves a massage after a long run. No matter how worked up, confused, frustrated, etc, I am before talking to you - I always get off the phone feeling totally realigned. Like my mind and my heart just had a 'thoughts' massage."
Lydia Berlage
"I see the Law of Attraction in certain ways, but I'm not 100% sold on the whole thing. I'd been out of work for almost a year. Regina's been telling me for a long time that the reason I wasn't finding a job was because deep down I didn't want a job - or at least not the jobs I was applying for, and since I didn't want the job, the Universe wasn't going to help me. I don't know. She explained that there are 2 kinds of people who believe in Law of Attraction. Those who believe 100% and those who'd like to believe but don't really. Maybe they're 30-40%.. That's probably me. In either case, I was willing to try it out, so I let her coach me. She had me describe in detail what a really good time would be like if I could have anything I wanted. It was all about making myself feel the feelings. It took me awhile to get into it, but it was fun. I talked all about this car I was shopping for, felt like I was driving it - it was great. Then a few days later I got a job. I'd applied for it because I thought it would be really fun, but wasn't thinking I was going to get it since my track record had been shotty. It was pretty crazy. I don't know if it's the Law of Attraction fully, but I definitely think feeling that way and getting this job are related.. I appreciate it, Regina."
Rafael Maston
"I noticed a pattern when I speak or connect with you Regina! It is actually a winner pattern! I notice that I can share a breakdown and then immediately shift it into an empowering context and new action. You have that affect on me! It happens every time we connect. I feel safe to be authentic, vulnerable and even a little whiny. (Whiny for affect!) then I hear myself and my best Self comes forward to point me into a resolution , providing wholeness and health. All in your clearing."
Andrea Fono
"A lot of people would benefit and thrive in connection with you. You are talented at being there in a deep way with people. It supersedes money. They are able to sort stuff out in your listening and speaking. You're extraordinary and a gift in my life."
Sarah Brownstein
Regina is a super knowledgeable law of attraction coach. I've been working with her since 2009. She's actually the person who introduced me to the teachings of Abraham Hicks. Very, very few have the depth of knowledge and experience that she does (she’s been a serious student of the subject since 1995). Whenever I run into something that I’m trying to figure out (law of attraction related) and I’m not making progress, I get in touch and her insights have always proven priceless. It’s why I keep coming back. During our first meeting, all those years ago, she challenged me to rethink a conclusion I'd made about what's possible with the law of attraction. It ended up changing my life. I highly recommend her to anyone looking for an LOA or addictions coach.
Al Faustino
"Regina is the real deal. Just spend an hour with her and you will see what I mean. Her approach to helping people with addictions is unlike anything I've seen. She leads with love and compassion and is extremely knowledgeable. Highly recommend!"
Jessica Pozo
"She is direct, clear, and gets straight to the point; she is open and her caring shines through all of her communication. She speaks in easy to understand language and makes sure boundaries are honored and respected. A real joy to work with!"
Dan Junkins
"A great coach, Regina is passionate about helping others change their lives for the better. The processes that she teaches have brought nothing but benefits into my life, truly a better me with her guidance."
Rufus Writerman Nelson
"You have a really great talent about you and I know this because I have had a one on one consultation with you.. I don't think everyone in group gets to see how talented you are at releasing yourself and getting into somebody. I think there, because you try to be involved in the group, it's like "oh, this is Regina and Regina is all about Regina right now," but you're not! You're so much more well-rounded than that. You have such a talent to be able to turn your self OFF and completely focus on one person. Getting to witness that for myself gave me such a respect for the talent that you have. When I think of other people who are coaching somebody, they still are thinking about themselves somehow, and I didn't experience that with you at all, you just turn it off, 100% into that person."
Angie K
"I had been single for almost 10 years and had a very poor opinion of men after 2 failed marriages. I had a social life but it only consisted of women. Regina approached me about it and asked : if I thought I could have what I really wanted in a love relationship, would I still want one? Deep inside I wanted one but I didn't believe it was possible. I had put that dream on the shelf. Regina helped me to understand that I couldn't move on in my life in this area without making peace with the past. With her encouragement, I wrote a letter and later spoke to my 1st husband who was the one I still had negative emotions about. It was very healing for us both. After that I felt free from the past and began to feel hope that maybe it was possible to be in love and have relationship work the way I wanted it to. With Regina's coaching, I made a list of all the attributes I wanted in a partner. I went through many processes after that, including dating at 55, and it was fun now because I felt hope. Regina was there cheering me on when I met the man who is my husband today, the most perfect fit in the whole world. I would've missed out on him if I'd continued on the path I was on. This major milestone in my life had me work with Regina for years to come. I have had so many breakthroughs over the years but another unprecedented one was losing 60 lbs in 6 months time, which for me was huge, as my weight was always a sticking point for me until now. Thank you Regina for caring and sticking by me for so many years. You have special insight and wisdom and I will never forget you".
Roberta Pace Leruth
Suzie i
"I highly recommend Regina Chaylee. it made a difference in speaking with her when it came to the subject of addiction. From our first call, I felt ease and freedom around alcohol and cigarettes. it might of been a month since our call. I think I had 3 beers on separate occasions.I smoked about 4 cigarettes in one day, and I haven't picked one up since then. I'm not a daily drinker or smoker."
Flower A. Matias Castro
"Regina is a beautiful spirit. If you’re looking to expand yourself, to develop yourself in the practices of the law of attraction, You want support in doing so from Regina who is masterful at sourcing others to developing themselves to reach their next highest potential. Her programs have helped me create lots of love and I'm so grateful that I have her in my life. Some of it had to do with letting go, some of it had to do with being the space to attracting that which I want. It has helped me financially, in areas of friendship, and it has helped me dealing with grief and loss. I am very grateful for her support and program."
Barbara Jenkins
“Tʜɪs ɪs ᴇxᴀᴄᴛʟʏ ᴛʜᴇ ᴄʟᴀʀɪᴛʏ I ɴᴇᴇᴅᴇᴅ ᴛᴏ ᴛᴜʀɴ ᴇᴠᴇʀʏᴛʜɪɴɢ ᴀʀᴏᴜɴᴅ. I ᴀʟᴡᴀʏs ᴋɴᴇᴡ ᴛʜᴀᴛ I ᴋɴᴇᴡ ᴡʜᴀᴛ ᴛᴏ ᴅᴏ ʙᴜᴛ ᴛʜɪs ᴘʀᴏɢʀᴀᴍ ʜᴇʟᴘᴇᴅ ᴍᴇ ᴜɴᴅᴇʀsᴛᴀɴᴅ ᴡʜᴀᴛ I ᴀʟʀᴇᴀᴅʏ ᴋɴᴇᴡ ᴡʜɪᴄʜ ɪs ᴀᴄᴛᴜᴀʟʟʏ ᴡʜᴀᴛ I ɴᴇᴇᴅᴇᴅ. Tʜᴀɴᴋ ʏᴏᴜ sᴏ ᴍᴜᴄʜ!”
Sherri A.
"A lot of people would benefit and thrive in connection with you. You are talented at being there in a deep way with people. It supersedes money. They are able to sort stuff out in your listening and speaking. You're extraordinary and a gift in my life."
Sarah Brownstein
"I love her openness and suggestions for manifesting things in my life. Her coaching has been a true asset for me! I always get value in every conversation I have with her!"
Jana Scholten
"The amount of wisdom that is shown comes from experience. You're a very wise woman. I'm glad I met you when I did because it was when I needed it."
Adam L
"Your energy and passion for improving the lives of others is instantly apparent. It is impossible not to follow the words you give because they are so genuine and thoughtful. You have found your calling."
Even F.
"Regina is the real deal. Just spend an hour with her and you will see what I mean. Her approach to helping people with addictions is unlike anything I've seen. She leads with love and compassion and is extremely knowledgeable. Highly recommend!"
Jessica Pozo
"Regina is a high energy, intelligent, clear visioned, vibrationally aligned, heart-centered and intuitive coach. She is highly skilled at discerning, and helping clients discern the energy blocks that keep them stuck in low vibrational holding patterns and reconnect to their Inner Being in practical, simple yet incredibly powerful ways to allow transformational shifts. I wholeheartedly recommend her!"
Johanne Ascoli
"She is direct, clear, and gets straight to the point; she is open and her caring shines through all of her communication. She speaks in easy to understand language and makes sure boundaries are honored and respected. A real joy to work with!"
Dan Junkins